I think I'm setting up a column in my blog called "Discuss" after this post. Hm. So right now, I have a question in mind. Or should I say, Channel U have a question to ask and I want to express my opinion here in my blog? Labels: topicsDoes teenagers nowadays have manners?
I see alot of adults nowadays saying that us teenagers totally have no manners and goes on cursing our parents for not teaching us the correct manners. So what is manners may I ask?In sociology, manners are the unenforced standards of conduct which show the actor to be cultured, polite, and refined. They are like laws in that they codify or set a standard for human behavior, but they are unlike laws in that there is no formal system for punishing transgressions. They are a kind of norm. What is considered "mannerly" is highly susceptible to change with time, geographical location, social stratum, occasion, and other factors. That manners matter is evidenced by the fact that large books have been written on the subject, advice columns frequently deal with questions of mannerly behavior, and that schools have existed for the sole purpose of teaching manners.
- Wikipedia.org
Me and my friends always see cases whereby us teenagers are being solded by working adults for being ill-mannered. I personally think that adults are the ones who caused these because they dont set good examples for us. And, I think adults are even more ill-mannered than us teens.
Case study 1:
Picture yourself in a squeezy bus during peak hours. You are standing in between working adults who are rushing home to cook dinner. The bus stops at a particular bustop, and they are trying to get off the bus. While getting off, they knocked into you, and accidentally stepped on your foot. You said sorry to them but they then stared at you like an angry kid and get off the bus without even saying sorry for stepping on your foot.
So is this what they called manners?
You should have said excuse me when you are trying to get off the bus. Who the hell knows that you are trying to get off the bus if you didnt say excuse me? You cant just squeeze your way through like that. Adults always tell us that we need to say the word "Excuse me" but adults dont even use it.
Case Study 2:
You were in a crowded mall and 2 middle age ladies were standing on the pathway chatting, and thus blocking the traffic. You said excuse me to the 2 ladies and they gave way, but before that they stared at you because you interupted their conversation.
So is this manners for goodness sake?
I've said excuse me to you and you didnt even said sorry to me but gave me a stare. How cool is that? And then you proceed on scolding me for being ill-mannered for interupting your gossiping session about your neighbour's son hugging a girl in the lift.
The above case studies were real life events experienced by yours truely. For goodness sake, I personally think I'm well-mannered and so does many teenagers. I greet my elders by calling them jiu-jiu(s), ah-yi(s), gu-gu(s), gu-zhang(s) and neighbours' parents uncles and aunties. I say "Thank you" and "Excuse me" but adult strangers scold me for being ill-mannered. What shit is this? And I believe that many youngsters like me experienced the same thing too.
Yes, I know that some youngsters cursed adults to fuck off and such, but you cant just conclude that teenagers nowadays are ill-mannered because they are the minority. My sister once told me before that her psycology notes said that adults can only see the bad side in teenagers but no the good side, like for example, they sees you surfing the internet for porn everytime but not seeing you surfing the net for research to your project. Then they will conclude that you didnt do your homework and thus, banning you from using the computer.
Before schools can teach us about manners during CDP lessons, adults(not just only the parents) have to teach us the correct manners by setting good examples for us to see. We are the reflections of your behaviours. We follow what you people do. What's more? Teachers teaching CDP lessons are also adults. They dont do the same things like what they teach in school. They jay-walked, tucked out shirts when they are outside in Lot 1, and some even wear ankled-socks to school. So how can you adults scold us teenagers for being ill-mannered when you adults are ill-mannered as well?
Think about that peeps and give me your comments.
